Very Interesting Development with a Ukrainian Girl
As I told you before, this past week has been insanely full of an insane amount of developments and events. Tuesday was my birthday, Wednesday evening was a birthday party with 20 strong. Thursday was Women’s Day and ended with a party full of wonderful girls, and this weekend has been full of the realization that there are two girls that are in love with me. To top it all off, today, the 11th of March, is the 3rd anniversary of my arrival in Ukraine.
I remember that day fondly as I got off of the plane from South Korea with lots of extra baggage. I am speaking figuratively as I had added more than 15 kilograms in Korea. I had saved more than $5,000 to help me travel, but arrived in Ukraine without a dime due to some events beyond my control. I have previously written about them on Facebook or VKontakte, so if you are interested in an insanely funny story about an unfortunately series of travel events that would make for a great movie script, you can find those stories on their various social networks.
I invited some girls to that party on Thursday evening, knowing that I had had interest in 3 of them, and two of them had had interest in me. I wanted to see what happened. Fireworks did ensue, but not until Friday when I sent a thank you to the girls that had come. One of the girls, that I had dated previously, sent me back a scathing text message to me about another girl that she had gone to a night club with upon leaving that party Thursday night. She said that she saw how I was using her and this other girl, and that I didn’t deserve this other girl, that she was too good for me.
I calmed her nerves pretty easily as I sifted through the girl emotions to find that her added emotion is just because she is in love with me now, wants to be with me long term, and is upset because my feelings are not the same. As I had previously mentioned, I liked this Ukrainian girl in late September all the way through late November, but when I saw her walking hand-in-hand with another young guy, when she had just told me that I was special to her the previous evening, I lost interest in her.
I don’t need to lie to get what I want. I can get it and will get it only by telling the truth, and if I create a bad situation, I will accept the consequences and deal with the trouble I cause.
That being said, this weekend has been a little tame as I wait for one of the girls to come back into my life as she has been pretty busy with added work as well as unexpected out of town guests. That is the short girl. The problem is, this time away from her has made me aware just how much I enjoy spending time with her. I would really like nature to make this decision easy for me like I thought it was a year ago. A year ago, I was in love, and it meant that I did everything within my power to be with that girl.
I just want one Ukrainian girl and one Ukrainian girl is enough. I know I have high standards, and probably want too much. I have been called "too picky” and "unrealistic” more times that I can count. But, I’ve waited this long, why should I settle for less than I want???
I know there are plenty of great Ukrainian girls out there, and I am holding to my opinion that I am a good guy and deserving of a great Ukrainian girl.
I have been re-visiting this theme of "being a man”. How do you "be a man” that a girl desires???
Watching a television show recently, I have started noticing how men in America just give their own power to their woman and then wonder why the woman leaves eventually? I can see it now. The woman’s departure is inevitable. It cannot be prevented if she feels like the "man” of the relationship but deep down in her heart desires to feel like a girl. However, I am trying to examine my own past behavior to see where I have done this in the past, and to make sure that I am not doing this any more in the present or future. I seem to be doing ok. I have choices in Ukrainian girls.
At this point, I would love to have some comments, feedback, criticism, or suggestions. If there is anything that any of you would like to hear on relationships in general, or have questions or specific concerns to share with me, you are welcome to share them here, or can send me a confidential emalil to and I will address your concerns in my next blog. I hope you’re having a great weekend too.